Legal Separation, Long Island, NY

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Legal Separation in Long Island, NY
Legal Separation in Long Island, NY

Legal separation on Long Island, NY is often the first step toward either an uncontested or an contested divorce a divorce because it allows a married couple to live separate lives while legally remaining married. There are a number of reasons a married couple might choose to do this (see Top Benefits of Legal Separation below). A legal separation addresses all the same issues as a divorce, including things like property division, assets and debts, child custody and support, and visitation.

Should you eventually divorce, your separation agreement can be converted into a divorce, usually with few to no changes. Here’s what to know and how our experienced Long Island, NY divorce lawyers can help you.

On Long Island, New York, when parties enter into a separation agreement, they are required to physically separate. Most couples choose to live in separate households as though they are no longer married.

Under the terms of this legally binding agreement, you and your spouse will decide issues of child custody and support, and settle the responsibility of bills and other monthly expenses. Once both you and your spouse sign the agreement, have it notarized, and file it with the county clerk in your area, your legal separation is official.

Legal separation is an alternative to an uncontested or no-fault divorce. The process is much less formal than divorce and can usually be completed with little to no involvement by New York state courts. Be aware that this is a legally binding contract and you may be penalized if you fail to meet the court-ordered obligations of your separation agreement, even though you’re technically not divorced. You also can’t remarry while the separation is in effect – you’ll need to go through the divorce process if you want to get married to someone else.

 

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There are many benefits of opting for a legal separation instead of a divorce, like:

  • A separation agreement lets you go back. If you choose to get divorced, it’s permanent once it’s finalized. If you and your spouse later have a change of heart, you will have to remarry. If you decide not to proceed with a divorce after your legal separation you can if you wish, get back together without the requirement of getting married again.
  • Being separated maintains health care coverage for both spouses. After a divorce is finalized, ex-spouses are usually no longer covered under most employers’ health insurance plans. But if you’re legally separated, you’re technically not divorced so your eligibility for coverage may remain.
  • Remaining married keeps your tax benefits intact. Filing your taxes as married (either separately or jointly) usually gives you more tax breaks than if you file as single.
  • You can also keep your social security benefits. The Social Security Administration allows a married person to collect spousal benefits once the earning spouse begins to collect their own benefits. If you are already divorced, your marriage has to have lasted at least 10 years for you to be eligible to receive benefits.

Potential Risks

Like with any family legal matter, there are some potential risks to consider when it comes to deciding between getting legally separated and getting divorced.

You could be held responsible for paying any uncovered medical expenses that your spouse incurs during the time you were separated.

If your spouse takes out a credit card or accumulates debt, you’re still technically married, so you’re still most likely going to be technically on the hook for half of that debt.

In a worst case scenario, you could become responsible for supporting your spouse if they become disabled while still legally married.

 

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It’s always tough on children when their parents separate, even if it ends up being for the best for everyone involved – even your children. It’s important to take steps to protect your children during your separation.

First, establish clear rules and consistent routines. Your kids need to know what to expect when everything feels unsteady. Try to give them stability by agreeing with your spouse on the rules for each home.

You should also maintain communication with your spouse, even if you’re not getting along. Your kids need you to be civil and focused primarily on their needs and best interests. Try not to speak badly about your spouse in front of your children, even when you’re angry. This adds even more stress for your family.

Try to make sure you and your children have access to professional support. As your family dynamic changes, your family may need extra guidance or advice to navigate life. Consider working with a counselor or therapist who has specific experience working with children whose parents are separating. These professionals are equipped to provide you and your family with tools and resources tailored for your individual situation.

Finally, make as much time as you can for your kids. Put in the effort to spend quality time with them doing things they are interested in or like doing. Your children need reassurance that you’re still there for them even though their family might look a little different now.

Many couples go through the process of wondering if they should get separated or just go straight for a divorce. The answer to this question naturally depends upon each person’s individual circumstances. Here are some things to think about:

  • Whether or not you or your spouse need continued access to the other’s health insurance
  • If you have any desire to possibly rekindle your relationship with your spouse
  • If you still want to file taxes as a married person or if incurring the extra costs is worth being divorced
  • Whether or not you trust your spouse not to accumulate debt for which you’ll eventually become partially responsible
  • If you or your spouse is getting ready to draw Social Security

 

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Before making a final decision about getting a divorce or filing for legal separation on Long Island, NY it’s crucial to discuss both options with a qualified and experienced New York family law attorney. Make sure to look at the situation not only from the financial aspect but also from an emotional standpoint to see where you’re really at and what your goals for the future are.

The compassionate and experienced divorce attorneys and family law attorneys at Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. will be happy to help answer your questions about legal separation on Long Island, NY or any other divorce issue. Just call 631-923-1910 for a complimentary consultation or fill out the short form on this page and we’ll get right back to you.

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Q. What is legal separation in New York, and how is it different from divorce?

A legal separation in New York allows a married couple to live “separate and apart” under a formal written agreement or court judgment without ending the marriage itself. Just as in a divorce, the agreement outlines each spouse’s rights and responsibilities regarding property, debts, support, and custody  but the couple remains legally married.

The main difference is that a divorce legally ends the marriage, while a legal separation does not. You and your spouse remain married for purposes of taxes, insurance, and certain benefits. Many Long Island couples choose legal separation when they are unsure about ending their marriage permanently, wish to retain health insurance, or want to resolve financial and parenting issues before pursuing divorce.

Q. What issues does a New York legal separation agreement cover?

A comprehensive legal separation agreement on Long Island, NY will address every major aspect of your marital and family life, including:

  • Property and debt division. How to divide your home, vehicles, retirement accounts, investments, and any debts.
  • Spousal maintenance (alimony). Whether one spouse will support the other financially and for how long.
  • Child custody and visitation. Which parent will have primary physical custody, how parenting time is shared, and how decisions about your children will be made.
  • Child support. How much will be paid, when, and for how long, including contributions to childcare, medical, and educational expenses.
  • Health insurance and other benefits. Whether one spouse will remain on the other’s policy and how premiums will be handled.
  • Taxes and financial responsibilities. Whether you’ll file jointly or separately and how refunds, deductions, and liabilities will be divided.
  • Dispute-resolution methods. Whether mediation or court will be used if conflicts arise later.

When properly drafted, a legal separation agreement provides stability and predictability while allowing each spouse to begin living independently.

Q. Can we both stay in the family home in separate bedrooms and still be legally separated?

No. Under New York state law, to be considered legally separated, you and your spouse must actually live “separate and apart” in different residences. Simply maintaining separate bedrooms or finances while sharing a roof does not meet the legal standard.

If you intend to later convert your separation into a divorce, the one-year period of “living separate and apart” only begins once you’ve each established separate households. This rule applies equally to couples in Nassau and Suffolk Counties.

Q. How long does the legal separation process take on Long Island, NY?

If both spouses agree on the terms, a legal separation can often be completed in a few weeks to a few months. The process is typically faster than divorce because it doesn’t require a court judgment unless the spouses cannot agree.

However, the timeline can vary based on:

  • The complexity of your finances and assets
  • The presence of children and parenting issues
  • How quickly both parties exchange financial disclosures
  • The court’s schedule if filing for approval

Once signed and notarized, your separation agreement can be filed with the Nassau or Suffolk County Clerk to make it legally binding and enforceable.

Q. Can I convert a legal separation into a divorce later?

Yes. After living separate and apart under a valid separation agreement for at least one year, either spouse can file for a “conversion divorce” under New York law.

The separation agreement serves as the foundation of the divorce, meaning most financial, custody, and property terms remain the same. This approach can significantly streamline the divorce process because the issues have already been settled.

To qualify, you must have:

  • A properly signed, notarized, and filed separation agreement
  • Lived separate and apart for at least one year under that agreement
  • Substantially complied with its terms

Your Long Island divorce attorney can prepare the necessary court filings to convert your legal separation into a final divorce decree.

Q. Will a legal separation affect my taxes, insurance, or other benefits?

Yes, a legal separation can have several important financial implications:

  • Health insurance: Because you remain legally married, many employers will allow the non-employee spouse to stay on the family policy. However, you should confirm with your plan administrator.
  • You can still file as “married filing jointly” or “married filing separately,” depending on what benefits you most.
  • Retirement and Social Security. Time spent legally separated still counts toward the 10-year marriage rule for Social Security spousal benefits.
  • Debt liability. You may still share responsibility for marital debts unless your agreement clearly divides them.
  • Estate rights. Each spouse remains the other’s legal next of kin unless wills or beneficiary designations are updated.

Because the financial effects of separation can be complex, it’s best to review them with your attorney, tax preparer, or financial advisor before signing an agreement.

Q. Why might someone choose legal separation instead of divorce on Long Island, NY?

Legal separation can be a smart alternative to divorce for couples who:

  • Need time apart to decide if the marriage can be saved
  • Want to preserve health insurance or financial benefits
  • Have religious or moral objections to divorce
  • Wish to settle custody and support issues without ending the marriage
  • Plan to pursue a conversion divorce after a one-year separation period

For many Long Island families, legal separation provides structure and security during a difficult transition, without permanently dissolving the marriage.

Q. Do I need an attorney for a legal separation on Long Island, NY?

While New York law allows couples to create their own agreements, a legally valid and enforceable separation agreement must meet strict requirements. Errors or omissions could make the agreement invalid or unfair.

An experienced Long Island family law attorney will ensure:

  • Full financial disclosure by both parties
  • Proper drafting and notarization of the legal separation agreement
  • Compliance with state law and local court rules
  • Protection of your parental and property rights

Working with a qualified attorney helps avoid future disputes and protects you if the agreement is later used as the basis for divorce.

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Rob first handled my legal separation back in April 2014 and helped me get out of my house with an agreement that worked for myself and future ex. Finally, in early 2018 we started the process of divorce and he has been terrific to work with. He lets you know every step of the way what is going to happen and is very honest with his opinions on certain subjects. Divorce is not easy on the “Man” side of the equation and Rob was instrumental in making sure I landed on my feet. I’m glad he was on my side and I highly recommend him for anyone making sure they get a fair deal.

Mark Kravitz

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Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

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