There are a lot of logistical and financial issues surrounding divorce on Long Island but the emotional issues are just as important, especially when there are children involved.
When a couple decides to divorce, they are often very focused on finances, division of property, and custody issues with their children. Those are all highly important, but there’s another aspect that too often gets overlooked, and lost in the shuffle. All of the emotional concerns that also come along with the decision to separate, and those emotions can strongly affect the children in the home. That’s especially true of younger children who may not understand the process and why it’s happening, but affects older children too.
Here are some things you and your spouse should consider talking to your children about to help them process any fears they have or questions they may have.
Preparing for a Contentious Divorce on Long Island
A contentious divorce can be one of the most traumatic and life-altering experiences a person can endure. In addition to the loss of a cherished relationship, people going through a divorce face the potential loss of assets, property, time with children, and more. As normalcy drains from your life, you need to take measures to safeguard your finances, your rights, and your security. Most of all, you must bolster your psyche against a storm of emotion.
Although getting married is an exciting and romantic time for a Long Island couple, there are a few things that need to be in order first — and we’re not talking about the wedding decorations. A prenuptial agreement is an important document that addresses the property rights and assets of each individual should they get a divorce at some point in the future. Some people say that true love doesn’t need a prenup, but nothing could be further from the truth. A prenuptial agreement is essential for all New York marriages. Before you draft your prenup, understand what can — and should — be included, and what you can’t list on this type of legal agreement. (more…)
When we started our Long Island Divorce and Family Law practice years ago, the question of which spouse kept the beloved dog or house cat was rarely, if ever, raised in divorce proceedings on Long Island. However, in today’s society, many people treat their pets as members of the family. In many cases pets are treated just as well and loved nearly as much as they treat and love our their own children. This is all well and good until one spouse initiates a divorce and the reality of establishing two separate households, and the fact that the beloved family pet will only reside in one of those households, kicks in. (more…)
Can the Internet & Technology Cause the Breakdown of Your Marriage?
”The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is a phrase most Long Islanders have heard, and at times even understood. For our purposes, the “grass” is the temptation outside of the marriage. This is an issue as old as marriage itself, however, the pervasiveness of the Internet in our lives today, including online chat forums, online gaming and Internet dating sites, multiplies the temptation opportunities immeasurably. You don’t even have to leave your house or be anywhere near the source of the temptation. It’s on your computer or traveling with you on your phone. Today’s technology allows unhappy spouses to readily seek comfort, sympathy and reassurance outside of the marriage or relationship, which heightens the sense that the grass is in fact greener online. (more…)
As a Long Island Divorce and Family Law Attorney, I constantly meet with prospective clients seeking to reduce their child support payment. Just this week, my law firm successfully defended two separate petitions brought by fathers seeking to reduce their child support payments. In both cases, the court determined that the fathers did not prove a sufficient change in circumstances which would allow the court to reduce their child support payments. (more…)