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The Rise of Stalkerware in Long Island, NY Divorce

The Rise of Stalkerware in Long Island, NY Divorce

The Rise of Stalkerware in Long Island, NY Divorce

Going through a divorce is hard enough when it’s amicable. If your spouse doesn’t want a divorce, or just wants to control you, they might resort to spying on you. If they can get evidence against you, like proof of you engaging in drug use or domestic violence, they can use it to try to get custody of your kids or alimony. In the digital age, exes with malicious intent don’t have to stalk you physically and risk being seen, they can do it online anonymously. A step further than just following you on social media, some people resort to malicious software colloquially as spyware or “stalkerware”.  

Here’s what to know about stalkerware and how to find out if your spouse is using it to spy on you.

What Is Stalkerware?

Stalkerware is a type of malicious software (malware) that’s used to follow someone and track their activity through their smartphone. The software runs undetected in the background and can record a person’s activity on social media, internet browsers, and any other application they have installed on their phone.

Unfortunately, the legality of stalkerware is ambiguous and it can be difficult to hold stalkers who use this type of software criminally responsible. Usually, the installation of stalkerware on someone’s phone by itself isn’t enough to have someone arrested or even to get a protective order against them. It may be necessary for them to commit another more serious offense for the victim to get police protection.

How Is Stalkerware Used in Long Island, NY Divorces?

Since stalkerware tracks everything a person does on their phone, anyone using it will have access to things like text messages, emails, social media profiles, dating apps, bank accounts, and even work applications. If your spouse has stalkerware installed on your phone, this information can be used to suggest:

  • That you’re cheating
  • That you have more money than you say you do
  • That you have mental health problems
  • That you use drugs or alcohol
  • That you’re violent or otherwise a safety risk to your children

If there’s spyware or stalkerware on your devices, your spouse also has access to your pictures, passwords, voice messages, and web searches. Anything that you do on your phone will be mirrored, even if it’s not connected to the internet. Some stalkerware programs can record and store the actions you make offline and upload them to the preset destination once your phone reconnects to a signal.

How To Protect Yourself from Stalkerware

If you’re getting a divorce, it’s a good idea to take a few basic steps to secure your electronics and keep your spouse from spying on you at all. If possible, get a new phone or have your existing phone factory reset. This ensures your spouse has no opportunity to download or install anything on your phone before you, or they, leave the marital home.

If you’re not sure whether or not your spouse has installed stalkerware on your phone, look for these potential indicators that they may have:

  • You’re using double the data you previously did. Because stalkerware apps mirror everything on a phone, the amount of data used usually jumps to double what was used prior to the app being installed.
  • Your battery life suddenly starts to drain. Any app running in the background will drain your battery life much faster than usual. If you suddenly can’t seem to keep your phone charged after telling your spouse you want a divorce, stalkerware may be to blame.
  • Your phone starts acting glitchy. If your phone starts to lag or you notice other strange behavior from the device’s operating system, you should have it checked for malware that may have been secretly installed by your spouse.

Is Your Spouse Spying on You? Get Legal Help Now

If you’re getting a divorce – or even considering one – you should take steps to protect your smartphone from spyware, stalkerware, and other forms of malware that your spouse could potentially install on your phone to track you or monitor your activity.

Don’t let your spouse have access to your phone by leaving it out anywhere or not having password protection on it. If possible, keep your phone with you or even on your person while you’re around your spouse.

Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. is an experienced Long Island divorce law firm that can help you navigate the process of dissolving your marriage. Contact our office today for more information by dialing 631-923-1910 or fill out our short online form and we’ll get in touch to schedule your free initial case consultation and case evaluation.

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About the Author

Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
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Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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Avoid Mistakes at the Start of Your Long Island, NY Divorce

Avoid Mistakes at the Start of Your Long Island, NY Divorce

Avoid Mistakes at the Start of Your Long Island, NY Divorce

The early stages of getting a divorce in New York are often the most tumultuous and emotionally draining. You’re just finding out that your marriage is ending and are suddenly living on your own, taking care of your children, and if you stayed home to take care of the children, maybe even going back to work or working more hours after a significant period of time.

It’s during this time that some of the most critical mistakes in the divorce process can be made, so it’s important to be aware of what they are and what you can do to avoid them. Here’s what you need to know and how to get the legal assistance you need for your Long Island divorce.

Not Checking the Paperwork for Errors

Errors on your divorce paperwork can lead to significant delays in the divorce process or even result in expensive legal fees. Make sure you review all of your divorce paperwork carefully before signing anything. If your spouse seems rushed or pressures you to sign quickly before having your lawyer check the papers, this may be an indication that something is amiss.

Always take your time to review documents before signing anything in case something is incorrect or misrepresented. When you sign, you’re essentially agreeing to any errors or untrue facts that may have been presented by your spouse.

Spending Too Much Money Post-Divorce

Many people make the mistake of using their newfound financial freedom to splurge on expensive vacations, cars, and other luxury items, particularly if they’re awarded a large divorce settlement. While it’s okay to take a break or treat yourself after the stress a divorce, it’s important to be mindful of your financial situation and make smart choices about how you spend your money.

Your divorce settlement money and any spousal support or alimony you receive are intended to help you survive while you get back on your feet and can provide for yourself. It’s wise to create a budget and try to keep your spending in check so you can ensure you have enough money to cover your basic needs and any future expenses. Remember, this is the start of the rest of your life and you don’t want to put yourself in a hole before you’ve even begun.

Leaving The Marital Home Too Soon

Another costly mistake is leaving the marital home too soon during the divorce. While you may be anxious to get away from your spouse, and the tension living with them inevitably creates, you could be forfeiting some of your rights if you choose to leave your home.

For example, if you leave the marital home where your children live, and your spouse is left to primarily take care of them, this could be used in court to make a strong case for your spouse to receive custody. Or, you could be forfeiting your right to the equity you’ve built by essentially leaving it with someone else.

Not Getting Specialized Support

While it may be tempting to try to handle everything on your own, it’s important to remember that divorce is a legal process with many complex aspects. You need adequate support to help you get through the obstacles ahead. You may be lucky enough to have what appears to be a smooth uncontested divorce, but this does not mean experienced legal counsel is not necessary to protect your rights and assets. Friends and family can be an invaluable resource, but they often just don’t have the resources or knowledge to provide you with the care and representation you need during a divorce.

Make sure to seek the support of professional counselors, therapists, or support groups designed specifically for divorcing or divorced people. These professionals can provide you with the tools to make the process as manageable as possible and help you build a strong foundation for your new life.

Not Getting Legal Help Soon Enough

Many people delay getting legal help when faced with a divorce. This may be due to lack of funds or even just the common belief that you don’t need a lawyer until later on in the process. However, it’s actually in your best interests to consult with an attorney as soon as you make the decision to divorce, or even before you finalize your decision, if you want to explore your legal options first.

At Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C., we have the experience, expertise and track record of success needed to provide you with zealous, comprehensive family legal representation when you need it most. Contact us today to learn more about New York divorce laws or to schedule a free initial consultation with one of our veteran Long Island, NY divorce attorneys. Call now by dialing 631-923-1910 or complete our short contact form on this page and we’ll get right back to you.

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Your attorney will describe the many options available and determine together which is the right solution for you. By the end of this  conversation, we’ll all understand how we can best help you to move forward.

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There is no cost or obligation for this initial consultation. It is simply an opportunity for us to get to know each other, answer your questions and learn if Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. is right the right law firm for you. Give us a call at 631-923-1910 or fill in the short form below for your free consultation and case evaluation.

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About the Author

Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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How To Protect Yourself During an Unwanted NY Divorce

How To Protect Yourself During an Unwanted NY Divorce

How To Protect Yourself During an Unwanted NY Divorce

When your spouse asks for a divorce, it may seem as if your world has suddenly turned upside down. If you have children, your family can be quite literally breaking apart at the seams. When at least one party is no longer happy or satisfied in the marriage, it may be necessary to dissolve the marriage through divorce, but this doesn’t mean that both parties want to go through with it.

If you’re that spouse, and you’re in the midst of an unwanted divorce, here are some things you can do to protect yourself and some resources you can use to help you through this tumultuous time.

#1. Start With Your Finances

A good first step is to open a bank account in your name only. You need to be able to have somewhere to put your money that your spouse can’t get to or doesn’t know about. This is not to hide money from your spouse in order to get a more favorable divorce settlement. You will have to disclose all your marital assets and debts. This is to protect yourself and ensure that you have enough money to support yourself during your divorce and ensure your spouse does not siphon it off for their needs and desires.

If possible, save something back for the cost of a divorce lawyer, a new home, and other expenses that you’ll incur by being on your own again.

Next, create a budget for what you will be spending when you’re living on your own. You may need to cut back on certain things or find ways to increase your income depending on your situation.

For example, if you have children and are paying alimony and child support, you’ll need to factor in those expenses along with the cost of a new place to live, utilities, food, etc. This will help you track your spending and make sure you’re not spending more than you can afford as a newly single person.

#2. Protect Your Credit

Your credit rating may also be affected by a divorce, especially if you have joint debts with your spouse. You can protect your credit rating during a divorce by maintaining good payment history on all debts in your name and by avoiding opening new lines of credit during the divorce process. It’s also critical to review your credit report regularly during and after a divorce to ensure that your score isn’t negatively affected.

Note that you will need to pay debts in both of your names if your spouse refuses and you don’t want it to impact your credit score. Creditors and credit bureaus only measure things like payment amount and frequency, and they won’t take into account if you’re divorced. If the debt isn’t paid, both your and your spouse’s credit scores will be adversely impacted.

#3. Take Care of Your Mental Health

Don’t forget to take some time to take stock of your mental health. Getting a divorce is stressful enough, but if it’s not something you want, the situation can become exponentially more emotionally difficult. If you find yourself struggling, don’t be afraid to reach out for professional help or visit a divorce support group. Utilizing these kinds of resources are not a sign of weakness, but of taking care of yourself so you have the strength to get through this unique life event.

Many people understand what you’re going through and can lend a listening ear. Whether it’s family, friends, or people in your support group, make sure to surround yourself with supportive people who can be there for you during this difficult time. While it’s critically important to share your emotions, be careful who you trust with sensitive information. You may be close to your in-laws, but when it comes down to it, are you sure they won’t share your information with your soon to be ex-spouse?

Remind yourself that you deserve care and compassion and that it’s okay to feel whatever emotions come up.

Practicing self-care activities that help you cope is a great way to focus on yourself and get the time and space you need to heal. This might include things like exercise, meditation, journaling, or spending time outdoors in nature. These things are proven to physically reduce your stress levels and help you better manage the difficult emotions that come with getting a divorce.

Work With an Experienced Long Island, NY Divorce Attorney

One of the most valuable assets you can have during a divorce, especially if you never wanted to end your marriage, is an experienced divorce attorney. Your attorney can help you understand the legal process of divorce and your rights and responsibilities within it, so you know what to expect every step of the way.

By taking the time to consult and work with an experienced divorce lawyer, you can help ensure that your rights and interests are protected throughout the divorce process. This can go a long way toward alleviating your stress and the high emotions these difficult times inevitably create.

Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. are veteran Long Island, NY divorce attorneys who can help you navigate the challenges ahead and connect you with the resources you need to get through the divorce and start life anew. Contact us today to learn more or to schedule your free initial consultation by dialing 631-923-1910 or fill in the short form on this page.

GET YOUR FREE CONSULTATION TODAY
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Get your complimentary consultation and case evaluation with our experienced attorneys today.

Your attorney will describe the many options available and determine together which is the right solution for you. By the end of this  conversation, we’ll all understand how we can best help you to move forward.

No Cost or Obligation

There is no cost or obligation for this initial consultation. It is simply an opportunity for us to get to know each other, answer your questions and learn if Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. is right the right law firm for you. Give us a call at 631-923-1910 or fill in the short form below for your free consultation and case evaluation.

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About the Author

Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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Navigating a Stepfamily Divorce on Long Island, NY

Navigating a Stepfamily Divorce on Long Island, NY

Navigating a Stepfamily Divorce on Long Island, NY

If you’re divorcing your second spouse, and you have stepchildren now, you may feel like you’re in uncharted territory. While your divorce is between you and your spouse, the many issues involving stepchildren in a second marriage make it seem more like a stepfamily divorce. Child custody and support matters become infinitely more complex in stepfamilies, but, rest assured, you’re not alone. This is more common situation these days than you might think. While there are some differences between first and second divorces, there are also many similarities. Here’s what you should know and how to get legal help if you’re considering or getting a divorce from your stepfamily.

The Impact of Stepfamily Divorce in NY

The impact of stepfamily divorce can be far-reaching and complex. In addition to the emotional upheaval that accompanies any divorce, stepfamily divorce often entails additional challenges such as dealing with feelings of betrayal, guilt, and loss.

There’s also navigating complicated family dynamics and managing financial decisions that can have long-term consequences. Children in particular may struggle with feelings of abandonment and confusion as they try to make sense of their changing family structure.

Is Your Stepfamily Divorce Contested or Uncontested?

Like any dissolution of marriage, there are generally two types of stepfamily divorce: contested and uncontested.

Contested Divorces for Stepfamilies in NY

Contested divorces involve disagreements about important issues in the divorce like property division or child custody and tend to be more complicated and expensive than uncontested divorces. If you and your spouse can’t agree on these important issues, you may be forced to litigate. In some situations, it may be in your best interests or the best interests of your children or stepchildren.

Uncontested Divorces for Stepfamilies in NY

Uncontested divorces are usually more affordable because there’s less time spent with lawyers and in court. In this type of divorce, both spouses agree on all aspects of the dissolution before filing for it, eliminating the need for a judge to make decisions for them.

Which type of Long Island, NY divorce is right for you and your stepfamily depends on many factors, like how much money you make, if you had biological children in addition to stepchildren, and what you stand to gain or lose if you go to court.

Fighting For Access to Your Stepchildren

If you have been denied access to your stepchildren, you may be able to pursue legal action. Depending on the situation, stepparents may be able to file petitions for visitation or even custody rights. If you’ve formed a meaningful relationship with your stepchildren, you may need legal assistance to help protect it.

Protecting Yourself from Undue Child Support

Stepparents are especially vulnerable to undue child support when divorcing a stepfamily. The children’s biological parent may try to obtain child support from the stepparent, claiming that the stepparent was a de facto parent to the child during the marriage and should therefore be responsible for financially supporting the child. However, stepparents can take certain steps to protect themselves from being held liable for undue child support.

Frequently Asked Questions About Stepfamily Divorces

How Do Stepfamily Divorces Differ from First-Time Divorces?

While divorce is always a difficult and emotionally charged process, stepfamily divorces often present unique challenges. For example, there may be more than one set of divorce proceedings taking place simultaneously, such as if there are children from multiple marriages involved.

The financial stakes are also often higher, as there may be more assets and debts to divide between the parties, and child custody and visitation arrangements can be more complicated to work out.

Will I Be Required to Pay Support for a Stepchild?

The answer to this question depends upon the situation and what aligns with the best interests of the child. In some instances, the law may require that stepchildren receive financial support from a stepparent, particularly if the stepparent is the primary caretaker. Or, the court may grant support to stepchildren if the biological parent is unable or unwilling to provide financial support.

Ultimately, each case must be evaluated on its own merits, and it is important to consult a qualified Long Island, NY family law attorney to determine the legal obligations in each situation.

Get Experienced Help From an Experienced Long Island, NY Divorce Lawyer When You Need It Most

At Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C., we understand how complex and time-intensive a stepfamily divorce can be, and we’re committed to helping our clients navigate this difficult process. Contact us today to learn more or to book a free initial consultation to discuss what legal options may be available to you by dialing 631-923-1910 or filling out the short form on this page.

 

 

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Your attorney will describe the many options available and determine together which is the right solution for you. By the end of this  conversation, we’ll all understand how we can best help you to move forward.

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There is no cost or obligation for this initial consultation. It is simply an opportunity for us to get to know each other, answer your questions and learn if Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. is right the right law firm for you. Give us a call at 631-923-1910 or fill in the short form below for your free consultation and case evaluation.

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About the Author

Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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Can a Divorce Result in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?

Can a Divorce Result in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?

Can a Divorce Result in Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?

The process of getting divorced is emotionally difficult no matter which side you’re on. It doesn’t matter if it was  your decision or your spouse’s, it’s always traumatic to end what you thought in your heart would be a lifetime together. The stress of dissolving your marriage can have lasting psychological effects for anyone and in some cases may lead to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Here’s what you should be aware of, how to cope with post-divorce stress, and what an experienced Long Island, NY divorce lawyer can do to help you. 

The Common Psychological Effects of Divorce

Divorce is usually an extremely stressful and emotional life event for everyone involved, and the psychological effects can be far-reaching depending on the circumstances surrounding the divorce. For example, it’s common for either or both spouses to feel overwhelmed, sad, confused, helpless, ashamed, and embarrassed. 

There may also be a sense of relief or the lifting of a burden. Many people struggle with changes in self-identity, particularly people who were married young and/or have been married for a significant amount of time prior to their divorce. 

How Divorce Can Lead To PTSD

PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is a serious mental health condition that typically comes about after a person is exposed to a traumatic event, including experiences such as natural disasters, the death of someone close, a car accident, or an abusive family dynamic. This condition goes beyond the normal feelings of sadness or frustration after getting a divorce and can cause significant impairment in daily living. 

Several factors can increase the risk of developing PTSD after a divorce, including but not limited to: 

  • If the divorce was unexpected or came as a complete shock
  • If there was infidelity involved
  • If there was physical or emotional abuse during the marriage
  • If custody arrangements are disputed and/or child visitation is limited
  • If parental alienation occurs

Signs & Symptoms of PTSD After Divorce

PTSD symptoms can vary widely between people from person to person and may come about at different times. For some, symptoms may appear immediately after the divorce. For others, these symptoms may not emerge until months or even years later. This can include: 

  • Intrusive thoughts or memories of the divorce 
  • Replaying events over in your mind
  • Avoiding anything that reminds you of the divorce
  • Negative changes in mood and thinking 
  • Feeling hopeless about the future
  • Having difficulty concentrating
  • Changes in physical and emotional reactions 
  • Irritability 
  • Insomnia

Coping With Post-Divorce PTSD

While PTSD after a divorce is challenging, there are several healthy coping mechanisms that can help you manage its effects.

First, it’s important to give yourself time to grieve the loss of your marriage. This means allowing yourself to feel sad, angry, and scared. You should also consider talking about your feelings with family and friends who can offer support and understanding.

It’s also crucial to take care of yourself physically, including eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly. These help regulate your nervous system, which in turn gives you more endurance to handle emotional stress too. 

You can also find ways to express yourself creatively, like painting, writing, or playing music. Doing things that make you feel good or creating something beautiful can help you cope with stress and improve your self-esteem.

When To Seek Professional Support 

If you are struggling to cope with post-divorce PTSD on your own, it may be helpful to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. Experienced professional therapists can provide support and guidance as you work through challenges and help you develop healthy coping mechanisms to deal with triggers in positive ways. In some cases, medication may also be recommended by a doctor or therapist to manage the physical symptoms of PTSD, like anxiety or depression.

How A Competent Long Island, NY Divorce Attorney Can Help

An experienced Long Island, NY divorce attorney can be an invaluable asset when going through a divorce, especially if there are children involved. Your lawyer can help you navigate the legal process and minimize some of the stress of paperwork or dealing with your spouse’s attorneys, so you can focus on taking care of yourself and building new opportunities for your future. They can also provide guidance on how to deal with custody and visitation issues, property division, and other important matters. Contact Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. today for more information or to schedule a consultation to discuss your divorce options and start getting the help you need. Call now by dialing 631-923-1910 or fill out the short form on this page.

 

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  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
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Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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On Long Island, NY, Who Files for Divorce More: Men or Women?

On Long Island, NY, Who Files for Divorce More: Men or Women?

On Long Island, NY, Who Files for Divorce More: Men or Women?

In a 2015 study conducted by the American Sociological Association (ACA), researchers found that 69 percent of all opposite-sex divorces are initiated by women. This leaves only 31 percent of men being the ones to take the initiative to end their marriages. Below, we take a look at how men are impacted when their spouses file for divorce and how an experienced Long Island, NY divorce lawyer can help you navigate the process of dissolving your marital union.

The Financial Impact of Getting a Divorce on Men

While it’s true that women are more likely to file for divorce than men, men are more likely to suffer greater economic hardship as a result of divorce. According to Bloomberg, the average standard of living for an older man after a divorce decreases by a shocking 21 percent.

There are several reasons why men tend to suffer greater economic hardship after a divorce. First, men are generally less likely than women to receive custody of their children after a divorce, and so they may have to pay child support payments which can put a strain their finances. They may also have to pay alimony or spousal support to their wives, which can decrease their income further and possibly even elevate their ex’s standard of living above their own.

It’s also worth noting that divorced men are also less likely to remarry than divorced women, meaning that they often have to shoulder the financial burden of single parenthood alone.

The Emotional Impact of Divorce

The emotional impact of divorce on all involved is not to be underestimated. For men, who are traditionally told they must control or hide their feelings and who aren’t encouraged to process them in healthy ways, this can be particularly daunting.

Understand that getting a divorce can be emotionally and mentally draining, and it’s not uncommon for men to feel angry, depressed, or even helpless during this time, particularly if they did not initiate the divorce. Men should seek out support from friends, family, or even a therapist if needed. Men need to remember that divorce does not define who they are as a person, and they can still be a good father, husband, and friend after the divorce.

How Men Can Re-build Their Lives After a Divorce

Many men feel lost and uncertain of their place in the world when their wife files for divorce. While this is an extremely emotionally charged time as mentioned above, it’s also an opportunity to start fresh and build a new life.

You can start by taking some time for yourself to relax and recharge. This may mean taking a vacation, getting involved in hobbies or activities that you enjoy, or simply taking some time each day to do something that you find calming or fun.

You should also make an effort to build some camaraderie between yourself and people who are going through something similar. There are often groups or communities available to help those going through a divorce, whether online or in person. These can provide valuable support and assistance as you navigate this new phase of your life, especially if you don’t feel ready to talk about this huge step with your friends or family in real life.

Now is a great time to make positive changes in your life that will benefit you in the long run, like eating healthier, exercising more, taking up meditation, or making other lifestyle changes. Try to focus on the future and what lies ahead, which may mean setting goals for yourself, planning fun experiences, or simply looking forward to the next day, week, or month.

Get Legal Help with Your New York Divorce Today

The decision of when to consult a divorce lawyer can be a difficult one. Working with an attorney can be expensive and stressful, especially for men who are already struggling with a lower standard of living, but having a lawyer on your side can have many worthwhile benefits, including financial and emotional.

You can increase your chances of receiving a favorable settlement the sooner you contact a professional who can help you. The process of divorce is never easy, but with the help of an experienced divorce lawyer, it can be much less stressful and more manageable.

Contact Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. today to learn more about the impact of divorce on men or to set up a time to speak with one of our experienced family attorneys by calling 631-923-1910 or filling out the short form on this page.

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Melissa Rappa
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At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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Should You Rent or Buy  a House After a  Long Island, NY Divorce?

Should You Rent or Buy a House After a Long Island, NY Divorce?

Should You Rent or Buy a House After a Long Island, NY Divorce?

Deciding whether to rent or buy a house after a divorce on Long Island, NY can be a difficult one. There are many, many factors to consider, but some of the most important include your financial situation and whether or not you have children. Here’s what to know about the pros and cons of both renting and buying a house after a divorce and how an experienced Long Island, NY divorce attorney can help you make the right decision.

Things To Consider First Before Buying or Renting on Long Island, NY

Whether or not you should rent or buy following a divorce on Long Island, NY depends on a lot of different things, like how much money you have saved and what your current income is, if you have custody of your children or will be having visitation with them, and what the housing market is in your area and what that means for availability of houses within your price range.

If you have children, renting a small apartment may not be a good option, since you will need to have enough space for each child to sleep, study, and play. But if you plan on relocating any time soon, buying a house may also be less than ideal. If your children are grown and no longer living with you, renting a studio could be a great way to save money after your divorce.

Pros & Cons of Renting a House After Divorce

Renting is a great option for many divorcees, especially those who need the flexibility to move if their job situation changes or if they decide to relocate for any other reason. Another benefit of renting versus buying is that in an apartment or rental home, you don’t have to worry about maintenance and repairs – those are the landlord’s responsibility. This provides you with some security and stability in your monthly budget that homeownership does not provide.

Also, renting usually requires less of a financial investment than buying a home, so it may be a good option if you’re unsure about your long-term plans or if you’re still recovering financially from the divorce itself.

Of course, there are also some downsides to renting after a divorce. For one thing, you’ll likely have less space and fewer amenities than you would if you owned your own home. Additionally, rent can go up over time, which means that you could end up paying more in the long run than you would if you’d bought a house. It’s also important to note that as a renter, you’ll never build any equity in your property and the money you spend on rent won’t amount to anything if and when you decide to move.

Pros & Cons of Buying a Home After Divorce

One of the biggest pros of buying a house after a divorce is that you’ll have more control over your living situation. When you own your own home, you can make changes as you see fit and don’t have to worry about getting permission from a landlord. You also won’t have to worry about things like unexpected rent increases. If you have children, owning your own home can also give you more stability and allow them to stay in the same school district.

Furthermore, purchasing a home after a divorce can help you build credit and improve your financial situation in the long run, provided you pay your mortgage on time. If you buy wisely, your home could go up in value over time, giving you equity that you can tap into later on down the road.

On the other hand, buying a house after a divorce can be expensive. Not only do you have to come up with a down payment, but you also have to pay closing costs, real estate taxes, and other fees. If you’re not careful, these costs can add up quickly and put a strain on your finances and if the housing market is weak, you may also end up losing money on your investment.

What an Experienced New York Attorney Can Do to Help Your Post-Divorce Living Situation

If you’re getting a divorce and are unsure of whether or not you should rent or buy your next home, a qualified Long Island divorce lawyer can help you navigate the challenges and obstacles up ahead. At Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C., we can give you the support and legal advice needed to make the best decisions for your post-divorce housing.

Contact our office today for more information or to book a free initial consultation by calling 631-923-1910 or filling in the short form on this page. We’ve been proudly serving Nassau and Suffolk counties in New York and surrounding

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Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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How a NY Divorce Can Impact Your Career

How a NY Divorce Can Impact Your Career

How a NY Divorce Can Impact Your Career

No one gets married expecting to get divorced, but unfortunately, it happens. If you find yourself in this situation, it can be difficult to know how to handle it, especially when it comes to your career. In some cases, the stigma of being divorced and the distractions of getting divorced can have a severe impact on your employment. Add to this the increased costs and responsibilities of being a single parent and how that impacts your available time for your job and you soon you’re your divorce is having a negative impact on your career. Below, we take a look at the potential impacts of divorce on your career and how to navigate these issues to increase your chances of coming out ahead.

The Stigma of Being a Divorced Employee in New York

The stigma of being a divorced employee can be significant. In some cases, it may lead to discrimination in the workplace. In other cases, it may simply make it more difficult to advance in your career.

There are several reasons why this stigma exists. Often, many people perceive divorce as an indicator of personal failings. This is especially true if the divorce was acrimonious or if there was infidelity involved. Employers often think that divorcing employees will experience personal problems that could affect their work performance or have difficulty balancing work and family responsibilities.

The impact of stigma can vary depending on the individual situation. In some cases, it may simply make it more difficult to find a job or to be promoted if your employer knows of your divorce or you have to take time off to deal with the various legal issues involved. In other cases, it may result in actual discrimination in the workplace.

While this is against the law, it may be difficult to prove an employer retaliated against you for your divorce status versus legitimate disciplinary action, particularly in employment-at-will states like New York.

The Difficulty of Juggling Work and Child-Rearing

Divorce can often make it difficult to juggle work and child-rearing responsibilities. This is particularly true if one parent is awarded primary custody and the other parent has limited visitation rights. In such cases, working full-time may simply not be possible. Even if both parents have joint custody, working full-time may still be difficult if one parent lives far away from the children or if there are scheduling conflicts with school and extracurricular activities.

Furthermore, divorce can also make childcare costs and paying child support more burdensome. Most people aren’t getting a raise when they get divorced, but they are taking on new expenses that they didn’t have before, particularly with regard to the need for extra supplies between two households and the cost of daycare or hiring a babysitter when childcare wasn’t needed before.

How Your Finances Are Impacted by Divorce

While the emotional and psychological effects of divorce can be difficult to deal with, the financial impact can be just as devastating. Not only do you have to contend with the legal fees associated with getting a divorce, but you also have to deal with the financial fallout from splitting up your assets. This can often mean having to take on additional debt at a time when you may already be struggling to make ends meet.

Coupling that with child support and the additional costs of child-rearing after divorce can further strain your finances and make it difficult to maintain your standard of living. If you are unable to keep up with your child support payments, you could face serious legal consequences, including jail time.

All of this can have a major impact on your career. If you are unable to meet your financial obligations, it could lead to decreased productivity at work and potentially job loss. Additionally, the stress of dealing with financial problems can take a toll on your mental health, which can adversely affect your ability to perform well at work.

Positive Impacts of Divorce On a Person’s Career

The Opportunity to Start Over

Your divorce will likely be a difficult and emotionally charged experience, but it can also have some positive impacts on your career. In some cases, divorce can provide the motivation you need to prove yourself at work. If you have been a stay-at-home parent or working in a lower-paying job during your marriage, getting divorced can allow you to start over professionally. Divorce can also give you the chance to pursue new opportunities and make positive changes in your career.

Recharging Your Batteries

Although taking time off work during a divorce can have some negative consequences, it can also allow you to focus on your personal life and family. This break from work can help you recharge and come back refreshed and motivated. If you use this time wisely, you may also be able to network with other professionals in your field or take classes to improve your skill set.

Contact an Experienced Long Island, NY Divorce Attorney Today

Going through a divorce is a difficult process that can have an impact on every aspect of your life, including your career. There may be both negative consequences and positive outcomes, like incurring extra expenses but being able to take time for yourself. Contact Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. for a free consultation and case evaluation at 631-923-1910 or fill out the short form on this page.

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  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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Can Text Messages Be Used Against Me in a New York Divorce?

Can Text Messages Be Used Against Me in a New York Divorce?

Can Text Messages Be Used Against Me in a New York Divorce?

When getting a divorce, your spouse has the opportunity to use text messages sent to them in private against you to control the situation or obtain some type of benefit, like primary custody of the children or a higher alimony payment. Here’s what to know and how you can protect yourself with the help of a veteran Long Island, NY divorce attorney.

How Text Messages Can Be Used Against You in a Divorce

Unfortunately, your text messages to your spouse may not be as private as you thought they were when you sent them. Text messages can be used in a variety of ways to gain the upper hand or paint you in a negative light, including but not limited to the following:

#1. Proof of Infidelity

If you are having an affair, or are even just suspected of cheating, your text messages could be used as evidence against you in a divorce. Even if your spouse can’t prove that you’ve been unfaithful, simply the suspicion of infidelity can be enough to damage your relationship and give your spouse an advantage during the divorce.

#2. Evidence of Financial Fraud

Text messages can also be used to suggest you may be committing financial fraud against your spouse. For example, if you are hiding assets or income from your spouse, or if you are spending marital funds without your spouse’s knowledge, your texts could provide clues to support these allegations.

#3. Indicators of Other Misconduct

In addition to infidelity and financial wrongdoing, text messages can also be used to allege other forms of misconduct. Your spouse may accuse you of engaging in illegal activity or domestic violence, and your text messages could unintentionally support these allegations. Your spouse may even set you up to say something specific so they can take a screenshot of it for later use against you.

How To Protect Yourself from Unwanted Use of Your Texts

If you are concerned about your text messages being to harm you during your divorce, there are some steps you can take to protect yourself:

#1. Keep Your Text Messages Secure

Password-protect your phone and only give the password to trusted family and friends, if you give it to anyone at all. You should also avoid storing sensitive information in your text messages, such as financial records or details of a meeting with someone. If possible, you should encrypt your text messages so that they can only be read by the intended recipient.

#2. Avoid Sending Potentially Damaging Messages

Be careful about what you say in your text messages and be aware that your words can be used against you before you click send. Avoid writing explicit or romantic messages that would prove a romantic connection and don’t text anyone anything about your finances or income. Don’t send threatening or abusive messages or even messages that could be interpreted that way, since these can be used to support claims of domestic violence.

#3. Keep Records of Everything You Send and Receive

Keep records of all the texts you send and receive from your spouse in case you are accused of something you didn’t do or in case your spouse says or does something you need to prove in court. Take screenshots of any potentially damaging messages before deleting them, and don’t delete any of your messages. If there’s anything that could be manipulated against you, it’s usually best to just be upfront about it.

#4. Contact a Long Island, NY Family Law Firm For Help With Your Divorce

If you suspect your spouse may use your text messages against you, you must seek legal advice from an experienced divorce attorney as soon as possible. They will be able to advise you on how best to protect yourself and ensure that your rights and best interests are advocated for throughout the process of dissolving your marriage.

Reach Out to Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. Today

Understanding how text messages can be used to harm you in a divorce can help you take the necessary steps to protect yourself. If you have any questions or concerns, reach out to Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C. today for help. Our veteran Long Island, New York family lawyers have the experience and expertise needed to provide you with zealous, comprehensive family legal representation when you need it most. Call now for a consultation to discuss the details of your case at 631-923-1910 or fill in the short form on this page.

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Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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How to Build Wealth After a Long Island Divorce

How to Build Wealth After a Long Island Divorce

How to Build Wealth After a Long Island Divorce

If you’re going through a divorce, you should know that it’s important to take care of your finances now so that you can start fresh and build wealth for your future. Below, we discuss some key financial considerations for those who are dissolving their marriages, like budgeting, investing, and insurance so that you can make the most of your money after a divorce.

By following these tips, you can set yourself up for a bright financial future despite an unfortunate turn in your personal life.

The Importance of a Solid Financial Foundation When Getting a Divorce in NY

If you have little to no savings when getting a divorce, it’s important to start building a solid financial foundation as soon as possible. Take a good look at where your money is currently going to see where you may be able to cut back on expenses. If possible, you may have to try to increase your income by working overtime or getting a second job.

It’s also crucial to start building an emergency fund. This will help you cover unexpected expenses that come up during the divorce, like court fees or doctor’s appointments if you’re no longer on your spouse’s insurance. Start by saving as much as you can, even if it’s just a few dollars. Eventually, this figure will grow so long as you’re replacing what you take out for emergencies over time.

Determining Your Post-Divorce Budget

Take a close look at your budget. If you are used to living on a dual income, you probably need to find ways to cut expenses and increase your income. Start by making a list of all your expenses, like mortgage or rent, car payment, insurance, etc., and variable expenses like groceries, gas, and entertainment.

Then, look for ways to reduce your costs. Can you get a cheaper cell phone plan or cut back dining out? You can also try shopping around for better car insurance rates and use coupons on groceries. This can be difficult to sustain though, so you should also think about ways you can increase your income if possible.

Consider getting a higher-paying job or taking on a freelance opportunity or side hustle if you can, or negotiate a higher salary with your employer at work. Just be sure to account for the increased cost of child support or alimony if applicable.

Investing for Your Future After Divorce

Investing is one of the most important things you can do to build wealth after a divorce. While there are many different ways to invest, one of the best ways to ensure your long-term success is to diversify your portfolio.

Diversification simply means investing in a variety of different asset classes, such as stocks, bonds, and real estate. By dispersing your funds across multiple types of assets, you can reduce your risk of loss as opposed to investing everything into one kind of asset that may do poorly and leave you with little to nothing.

There are many different ways to build a diversified portfolio. One way to do this is by purchasing a relatively equal mix of stocks and bonds, or fewer bonds and more stocks if you want to take more risk or the reverse if you prefer to make safer investments.

This approach can offer you the potential for growth through stocks while providing some stability through bonds. Another way to diversify your portfolio is to invest in a variety of different types of stocks, such as large-cap, small-cap, and international stocks. This approach can help you to minimize your risk while still providing you with the opportunity to capture returns from different parts of the market.

No matter how you choose to diversify your portfolio, the key is to start investing early and often. And by investing regularly, you can take advantage of dollar-cost averaging, which helps smooth out market fluctuations over time.

How a Capable Long Island, NY Divorce Lawyer Can Help You

The divorce process can be a difficult and stressful time for everyone involved. One of the biggest concerns during and after a divorce is finances. With careful planning and execution, you can rebuild your financial foundation and create lasting wealth. You should also consider estate planning when considering your financial future.

At Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C., we have worked with countless clients who are going through a divorce and understand the financial challenges and stresses that come with this process. Our team of divorce lawyers will work with you to ensure that you get the best possible outcome for your divorce, both financially and emotionally. Call us today to schedule a consultation at 631-923-1910 or fill out the short form on this page.

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About the Author

Robert E. Hornberger, Esq., Founding Partner, Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.

  • Over 20 years practicing matrimonial law
  • Over 1,000 cases successfully resolved
  • Founder and Partner of Hornberger Verbitsky, P.C.
  • Experienced and compassionate Long Island Divorce Attorney, Family Law Attorney, and Divorce Mediator
  • Licensed to practice law in the State of New York
  • New York State Bar Association member
  • Nassau County Bar Association member
  • Suffolk County Bar Association member
  • “Super Lawyer” Metro Rising Star
  • Nominated Best of Long Island Divorce Attorney four consecutive years
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Committee Contributor
  • Collaborative Law Association of New York – Former Director
  • Martindale Hubbell Distinguished Designation
  • America’s Most Honored Professionals – Top 5%
  • Lead Counsel Rated – Divorce Law
  • American Institute of Family Law Attorneys 10 Best
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • Graduate of Hofstra University School of Law
  • Double Bachelor’s degrees in Philosophy, Politics & Law and History from SUNY Binghamton University
Divorce Lawyer Long Island New York
Melissa Rappa
Melissa Rappa
18:09 08 Feb 24
At one of the hardest and most stressful times of my life, it was so comforting to have a team at Hornberger and Verbitsky who ALWAYS responded in record speed to my questions, phone calls, emails or texts and who I felt really cared about helping me through this difficult time. It was a long few years and I am grateful to all of you. Thank you so much Rob, AnneMarie, Christine, Patty, Joan and Lawrence. Your guidance, professionalism and expertise is appreciated beyond measure.
Paul Carmichael
Paul Carmichael
16:21 11 Dec 23
I would give 6 stars if I could. I can't say enough good things about Robert and his firm. We were in a situation for over 2 years and I could have never made it through without Robert's experience and knowledge. He guided me through tough times when needed and his expertise could "read" the situation and make the next best move for me. He was tough when he needed to be tough (thankfully) and at the same time guided me through the process to make me feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. I would not want to go through this process without Robert and his team having my back. he helped move the case along and not waste any time or money. One last time, I 100% endorse Robert and his expertise.
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